We live in an era where we feel the need to please everyone. No one wants to be on the ‘bad children’ list. Lets face it, kid. You say YES far more often that you really should. You are known as the ‘go-to person’ for everything. Although, let me enlighten you with the fact that if you are ‘always there’, people will rip off your life. Oh yes, the bitter truth. So, de clutter your life! We all know what goes in your mind what will happen IF you say no. Everyone will think you’re a selfish, inconsiderate sloth. *sigh*
You need to realise, my obliging fellow that saying NO isn’t the end of the world.
Here are some tips on how to say NO without feeling Guilty about it
1. Mirror Does 80% Work For You
YES, that is correct. No one can teach you how to say no but YOU. Stand in front of the mirror and practice. Work on your skills on how you should react to different situations when people ask you those unsettling favours. Work it, ‘overly-nice, taken for granted’ peeps!
2. Do It Respectfully
If you can politely say YES to everything, you sure as hell can say NO too! Here are some one liners you can give a shot at: ‘I can’t.’ That’s it, folks. That’s all you need. You don’t owe anything to anyone. How are you going to help someone if you can’t help yourself? You do you.
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3. Think Different
There are species who no matter how much they try just CAN’T say NO. Here’s a solution for that too, fellows. Show them your ‘pinch-hitting support’ which is less time consuming, less complicated and make you feel good about yourself. If you are not free doesn’t mean other people aren’t free. Give your acquaintance or close friends some reference, a resource or just some quick tips! Its a win-win situation for everyone. You just need to think out of the box.
4. Lie or Excuse
There are times when you don’t want to hurt a person’s sentiment by saying NO because who wants drama in their life. Right? Dilemma Enters – WHAT TO DO THEN? Instead of being savagely truthful to their face, you can always say ‘Now isn’t a good time’ Or ‘I already have plans’
Warning: Do not lie about your health or your nickel-and-dime job or your cat! They are least bothered about it, you innocent person.
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5. Smile Please
Yes, that’s correct. It’s a game changer people! Whenever you are declining someone just pass along a small smile. Don’t get all creepy though. It creates an impression in their mind that ‘Oh, they wanted to help me but couldn’t. They are so genuine and thoughtful. It’s FINE if they don’t help me. I understand.‘ Mind-blowing. Isn’t it? How a little smile can make an impact on another person’s perception? So, keep smiling fellas.
So, saying NO isn’t that hard if you do it right. Your time is valuable, my friend. You need to invest in yourself and fill up your calendar with great opportunities. Say NO and set yourself free, mate.
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Tell us in comments down whether this helped you or you have any more suggestions.