An Open Letter to People in Their 20s

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Dear 20-year olds,

Many people say that your 20s are the best years of your life. While I can’t say for sure that this is, or isn’t true, I do know one thing, being 22 is literally the worst.

As we enter our 20s, a lot of things change, especially priorities. We are not the same people that we used to be, say, 5 years ago. Friends start getting married, and our social media profile is either filled with travel pictures hash-tagged with YOLO, or mushy honeymoon photographs with cheesy captions. And this is when you start thinking where you stand. You wonder and you question yourself.

I am sure I am definitely not the only person at a 20-something age confused with what the f*** I am actually doing. Being in your 20s- something means, unsure what to do with life while suffering from depression thinking why you haven’t found any purpose yet while constantly feeling like you are running out of time to achieve your dreams. Your best friend’s getting married. Your old classmate is killing it with success. Your ex is happy in love.

Different people are doing different things. But not you. You’re just existing. You’re getting through every day a little better than the last. But then you have days where you can’t get up at all. A question like why life is always such a struggle. When does it get easier? What should I do?  Keep running into your head making you feel worthless 

Cut yourself some slack, You’re gonna be ok.

I know you are scared right now maybe your heart hurts a little bit maybe you want that feeling back where it doesn’t seem like the whole world is against you. Just remember, at this age, you’re perfectly normal. Now you can google this if you like but trust me on this.

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The human brain doesn’t “fully develop” until the age of 25-26 years old. You are In your 20s. Cut yourself some slack. You’re gonna be ok. Life is complicated at every phase in life. Ask people who are in their 50s and the only thing that changes their life in perspective.

Trust that you will grow and adapt.

Things that you fear now will seem silly and insignificant in the future. That you’re even thinking about how to make yourself better is a very good thing. Stay calm. Stay strong. The terms “achievement” and “purpose” are both subjective terms.

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Establishing your own purpose and growing beyond what you anticipate with your success is the core of accomplishment. The reason I say this is that I frequently observe social reality and the people in it strongly impacting our behavior, goals, and perceptions of achievement.

You can always rise up from anything

You can completely recreate yourself nothing is permanent here, you always have choices you can completely change your thinking,Instead of  hopelessly waiting for something which is never going to happen. All  that matters is you decide today and never look back

Live for 5 am sun raises and 5 pm sunsets where you can see different colors in the sky. Live for the days, where your whole family is setting together and laughing at the silly joke your father just cracked, live for road trips with music in your ear and wind in your hair, live for the moments when you are with your best friend, laughing on something so hard you can’t even breathe, live for a small moment which makes you feel alive, which make you realize what life is all about. Because a few years from now everything you stressing about won’t mean anything to you.

Being happy for someone else’s success does not mean you have failed.

It’s so much easier to be happy for the happiness that other people are experiencing in their lives. It will fill you with more light in the pursuit of your own contentment, so silence that jealous voice in your head, and focus on your own inner peace

Smile more and give other’s reason to smile .Don’t let anyone anything take away your happiness. Your life goal should be one of the those people who are just light , you see them and feel so comfortable , so Happy and warm. .

Dream big, smile often (even when you don’t feel like it) and meet new people so you can narrow it down to the friends that you are going to keep for life. Most importantly, you need to learn. Learn as much as you can because we are expected to make countless mistakes. So by all means, make them. You are still growing and still learning, and that is okay.

With love and hope,


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Ayesha Siddiqa
Ayesha Siddiqa
I am a passionate mental health advocate and a final year Bachelor’s student in psychology. I talk about personal growth, parental issues, women rights, transgender rights, social issues, and mental health.

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