How To Get Over An Ex

How To Get Over An Ex

Having trouble getting over your ex? It’s rarely a quick and easy process, and it’s often complicated by all the things that the two of you still have in common, like friends and favorite hangouts. You miss everything about them like the way they looked at you, the way they smelled, the way their hand felt in yours and you still hear certain music that reminds you of them. When someone takes up so much of your life, it’s impossible to get over them in a day or two. The most frustrating thing about the whole process is that even if ending the relationship was the right thing to do, even if they cheated on you it can still be hard to bury all those memories and move on with your life.

Here’s How To Get Over An Ex.

1. Stop stalking them

Stop looking at their pictures and statuses. Unfriend them on Facebook, in fact block them in every social media sites. Avoid passing through their house. Stop sending them the innocent “Hi” texts, delete their number from your contact list. Don’t talk about them with your friends and don’t tell your mutual friends to tell them that you have been thinking of them. Yes, it will be so hard and you may slip but just try harder next time.

2. Give yourself enough time to grieve

The only thing that will heal you is time. So give yourself enough time to heal from these emotions. The grief process is a process where you go through it over and over again, possibly for years and years to come. Well, that was NOT what you wanted to hear. However you have to surrender to the feelings. Not right then and there, but over time. Time will definitely heal you, you just have to give yourself time.

3. Keep yourself busy

Fill your mind with other stuff and keep yourself busy. This one  might sound a little cliche, but it’s helpful. Empty mind may start feel like victim and depressed, start planing up ways to get them back, start plotting revenge. To stop your mind doing this you must go join gym and build a sexy body, cook meals which you have never cooked, call your friends with whom you haven’t talked to in a long time, plan your future, set goals and start working on it. This will keep you away from those thoughts. You have to wake up and get over it.

4. Take it as a good experience

Be optimistic and change your perspective of looking at the situation. This may sound stupid but believe me this will work. Think about what you have learned from this experience. Don’t focus on them, focus on yourself. This experience must have taught you the things about relationships, things about you. About things what you will and will not tolerate and what do you need to own. Why they were not the right one for you.

5. Allow yourself to be Alone

It’s time for you to spend some time alone. To experience the loneliness, to find out what you really want in relationships, your life, your future. Are you in relationships for the sake of being in one? Don’t jump from one relationship to another. Just give yourself some time alone. Try living your life alone for some time. Time to explore Yourself.

6. Stop “Being Friends” with them

Cut your ties completely with them. You need the space. Stop hoping that you two will get back together again. What do we usually do with our friends? Confide, talk about who we’re dating now. Do you really want to do that with your ex? Do you want to hear about which girl/boy they think are hot. If you think you have no emotional attachment at all, you have to give a thought about it once again.